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It's been a busy week and I forgot to tell y'all! I am part of a… 
14th-Aug-2013 08:54 am
It's been a busy week and I forgot to tell y'all!

I am part of a group reading on Saturday! 5-6:30pm at the Lilypad in Cambridge. Details here. I'm reading with Elwin Cotman, Militza Jean-Felix, and Zach Buscher. Poetry and fiction, $5 cover because the Lilypad won't let you do a free show. Come on down, hear my stuff and other people's stuff, maybe let's do dinner after.

And now that I know that one can do readings at the Lilypad - local writer friends, we gotta do this!

But anyway yes. I don't know what I'm reading yet, as usual. Suggestions welcome.

This is Elayna's last full week at home, so that's where my focus has been and will continue to be. We're going to the Gardner today and the ICA Friday, we're marathoning season 4 of Gilmore Girls (Rory's freshman year at Yale!), we're going to see Pacific Rim tomorrow (I have, she hasn't) and check out the poster section at Newbury Comics for dorm room decor. And hair dye, because she wants to go hella red again before school starts.

I keep coming up with the little things she'll need. We got her a little first aid kit, because she shouldn't have to run to the RA every time she needs a Band-Aid or cold pack. She needs a manicure kit. She needs Allegra and ibuprofen. All of these things that she's just always had around the house. How does one keep track? All the packing-for-college guides talk about rugs and lamps, and none of them say a damn thing about nail clippers. We're going to have to do a room-by-room walkthrough.

I have a lot of feels about all of this. But they all take time to articulate, and my time is with Elayna right now.

A week and a day.
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14th-Aug-2013 03:48 pm (UTC)

Also, I got through my first year of college without Q-tips, and then afterward started using my now-husband's every time he visited.

Not sure what the local retail geography is, but instead of trying to figure out everything she might possibly need, a CVS gift card for $25 or so may be a good way to go. You're going to forget things. That's just a given. So will other women and their families. Taking a walk down to the drugstore because A needs Aleve and B needs band-aids and C needs tampons is also a way to do some bonding in those early weeks.
14th-Aug-2013 02:17 pm (UTC)
In addition to a room by room walkthrough, I recommend a body walkthrough, starting at the top of the head.

"Okay, head. First I have hair. What is every single thing I use on my hair in a day? A week? A month? How much of that do I need to have available at college. Okay, ears...do I have Q-tips? Have I got my earrings sorted out? Am I prepared if I lose an earring back? Eyes...do I have glasses? A spare set? Sunglasses? Eyeglass repair kit if I lose a screw?"

I do an abbreviated version of this when I'm traveling, it really helps me pack.
16th-Aug-2013 04:50 pm (UTC)
a body walkthrough, starting at the top of the head.

Hey, I do this too!
17th-Aug-2013 02:04 am (UTC)
17th-Aug-2013 06:59 pm (UTC)
14th-Aug-2013 02:28 pm (UTC)
is there a sewing/repair kit among her necessaries?
14th-Aug-2013 02:35 pm (UTC)
Reading light for the bed - either freestanding or one to clip to the bedframe.
Water bottle.
Small fan.
Hair ties.

...at least, those are some of the things I remember getting into my dorm room and needing within the first day.
14th-Aug-2013 03:45 pm (UTC)
qtips and cotton balls
tiny sewing kit
distinctively patterned coffee mug
spare chargers and batteries for anything electronic
sharpies and masking tape (if her dorm has a communal fridge/kitchen)
15th-Aug-2013 02:28 am (UTC)
if her bed is lofted, a bed caddy for putting her phone or notebook in when falling asleep. I put togerther a med kit that also had tummy meds and day/nightquill
14th-Aug-2013 03:16 pm (UTC)
Costco has good-sized but cheap bottles of house-brand Allegra and ibuprofen; if you don't have a membership or easy access to one, let me know and we can figure something out.

(I use both heavily enough to make it almost worth my membership for those alone.)
14th-Aug-2013 03:45 pm (UTC)
PACIFIC RIM!! I can't wait to own it on Blu-Ray.

I don't really have any insights on college packing. I don't remember what I did; it was too long ago. I like dormouse's suggestion above, though, and that's how I pack for trips.
14th-Aug-2013 07:14 pm (UTC)
I love season 4 of Gilmore Girls!
14th-Aug-2013 10:36 pm (UTC)

Seems to have a lot of the personal sundry items one might need. I used something similar for deployment, where I was living out of a twin mattress wide by twin mattress long, by twin mattress and half high room, one small metal locker, one footlocker, and a few sterilite cabinets.

Edited at 2013-08-14 10:39 pm (UTC)
14th-Aug-2013 11:31 pm (UTC)
I was just about to post this! I was looking through it today for work, and was impressed by everything they thought of, many of which I wouldn't have.
15th-Aug-2013 02:14 am (UTC)

I too recommend the travel sewing kit. Also, ear plugs. Snacks, things like granola bars, and bottles of water, {insert favorite snack food here).

Also! I'd definitely be interested in local readings you might plan for the future at Lilypad. To read, I mean. I'll unfortunately be out of town this weekend, so will not be able to attend yours. It's a mother-daughter weekend with my Mom. :)

15th-Aug-2013 02:18 am (UTC)
This is Elayna's last full week at home, so that's where my focus has been and will continue to be.

As it should be.

This is an enormous Thing, about which there are going to be enormous Feels.

Give yourself the time to absorb them and ruminate over them. The time for articulation will come later.
16th-Aug-2013 02:27 am (UTC)
15th-Aug-2013 05:56 am (UTC)
Hey - this may help a bit. It's my packing list from Pennsic back when I was less broken and used to go for 2 full weeks. A lot of stuff you may not think about that was worked out by lots of people in our clan over the years. I was one of the few members who almost always had whatever was needed, so feel free to use and/or share it.

15th-Aug-2013 02:18 pm (UTC)
A tool kit. I learned that one after trying to assemble a bookcase with nothing more than a table knife for a screwdriver and a heavy book for a hammer. :)

At bare minimum: a normal screwdriver, a phillips screwdriver, a hammer, a pair of pliers, a flashlight, and a measuring tape. Multiple sizes of both types of screwdrivers are even better.
16th-Aug-2013 05:02 pm (UTC)
You know what I found invaluable when I was living in the dorm?

1. A small throw rug for next to the bed.

2. A little hand-held vacuum cleaner. I had a Dirt Devil, but they make little 1-gallon shopvacs now too. Because as you know, long hair gets EVERYWHERE and suddenly you're dragging hair into the bed with you on your feet even though you try to wipe them on the rug and somehow that makes it worse.

3. A little trashcan - small enough that the plastic shopping bags you get from any store will fit as a trashbag.

4. A small plastic shower caddy.

5. Terrycloth robe.

6. A collapsible hamper that doubles as a laundry bag.
16th-Aug-2013 09:53 pm (UTC)
Make sure she has a bank account with a debit card attached, preferably at where ever you bank. She'll want to make sure that you're authorized on the account. If she has some sort of an emergency (needs to go to the doctor, all her bedding got eaten by the laundry machine, her bike gets stolen, etc) and needs money to help cover stuff, it'll make it really simple for you to help her out.

Also, several rolls of quarters for the laundry machine, a laundry bag, detergent etc.
18th-Aug-2013 05:50 am (UTC)
Try not to stress too much. Stuff WILL get forgotten & that's ok. It gives her an excuse to talk to you and you an excuse to send a care package. And first semester of freshman year these are both good things. People have already given you great lists & suggestions. I have nothing to add except take a deep breath & enjoy the remaining time until your daughter leaves for college. I'm not a mom but I remember giving up on worrying about what I'd forgotten to pack for college. I enjoyed my last days at home, traveled 3000 miles to college & decided that coping with the missing stuff was an adventure in adulthood & walked into town & dealt with it. It taught me I could do that successfully & that not everything that I messed up on was a disaster. Good life lessons & I had fun learning them.
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