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Scheherazade in Blue Jeans
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The Care and Feeding of Shira at Wiscon 
10th-May-2011 02:20 pm
MLP: Pinkie bounce
All the cool kids are doing it, so here's mine.

Say hi!
I know a lot of people! This means I will often be with people. Please do not let this dissuade you from coming up and saying hi - my friends are friendly people too! I may take a sec to recognize you, or I may recognize you instantly. It will be a surprise to all of us, what happens. Seriously, though, I do love meeting people, and I'll be sad if I don't get to meet you, so come say hi. I'll be the short one.

No, really, I'll be the short one.
4'11". Further data: Curly calico hair that currently hits my shoulders, rectangular black glasses with some bling on the sides, possibly shaking my butt to music you cannot hear, almost certainly wearing fabulous jewelry. Um. People who have seen me recently, feel free to describe me.

I identify as genderqueer, but I use female pronouns. Some people can totally tell when I'm feeling more on the male side of the gender spectrum, and some can't; I don't expect you to. Keeping in mind that I'm not cisgender is good enough for me. (I have no idea what to wear to the Genderfloomp party. Suit? 1950s housewife kit? Everything is drag.)

Please don't.
* Wiscon is less crowded than other cons, so my startle reflex is less primed, but still: grabbing or hugging me from behind or playing Guess Who will not work out in a way that you enjoy. I would love to hug you! Make sure I know you're there first.
* Having my hair played with is a very intimate thing. If you're not sure if we're that intimate, we're probably not. If you think we might be, ask. :)

I'm arriving Thursday, leaving lateish Monday; rooming with omnisti, s00j, and stealthcello. If you don't have my cell phone number and feel that you require it, e-mail me.

My body wants to kill me.
* Seizure response info can be found here.
* The anti-seizure med I'm on is colloquially known as "the one you can drink on". Please do not look askance at me when I have a Manhattan; it is totally okay by my neurologist. Note: I do need to have my last drink ~2 hours before bedtime, because of my other evening meds. (Fending off "are you sure that's safe?" is not a huge issue in the grand scheme of things, but it gets wearying to do so again and again, so I tell you.)
* I have celiac disease. This makes the "feeding' part of "care and feeding" difficult. I believe Wiscon's restaurant guide has a list of GF-friendly restaurants. I would love to go to lunch or dinner with you. Please understand that when I need to know what restaurant first, it's not that I'm being a diva, it's just that I don't want to be sick for a week. If I say no, it's not that I don't love you, it's that I'm not sure about my ability to eat safely where you're going. You don't have to amend your dinner plans for me, it's cool, we can hang out later!
* I feel like I don't have to emphasize this as much at Wiscon, because Wiscon is more disability-aware than other cons. But basically, I am a grown-ass woman and I can manage my disabilities, and I know people mean well when they constantly touch base about whether I'm okay, but it gets tiring and I get to feeling othered. So please assume that I am okay. If I do need any kind of assistance, I promise I'll let you know.

Where I'll Be
Dishing out cookies at the Gathering, at the s00j show, on my panels, at my reading! I will be attending the Dessert Salon and the Genderfloomp dance party, and I'll probably be bouncing merrily along the sixth floor all night. Like Edward Bloom, I am a social person.

I am drawing a blank on what else would be useful for people to know. Ideas?
10th-May-2011 06:14 pm (UTC)
So excited about WisCon! I'll be there, and I will say Hi! this time.
10th-May-2011 06:21 pm (UTC)
10th-May-2011 06:25 pm (UTC)
I've been seeing a lot of WisCon set-up posts lately and it makes me wistful. I really wish we could make it this year. :P I suppose we could have if we were willing to fly. Alas.
10th-May-2011 06:32 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I will be playing the opt-out game again.
10th-May-2011 07:14 pm (UTC)
We also love the road-tripping: we drive day 1, stop in a B&B near Cleveland, then drive the second day and end up in Madison in late afternoon. It's laid-back and enjoyable time together, and either Akycha reads to me or we just talk the whole time, or both. But the Prius has >126K miles on it now, and my shoulder still isn't in top form (I'm afraid I'd end up spending the con with vicodin-worthy muscle spasms after 20 hrs of driving, even if Akycha did some of the driving). So. Big roadtrip is not on this year. :(
12th-May-2011 03:01 pm (UTC)
We're thinking of road-tripping next year, when sindrian will be coming with. :)
10th-May-2011 06:27 pm (UTC)
Don't touch the hair.
Don't sneak up on you and go BOO! (Will end BAAAAADLY.)
Press the button THEN talk.

Wish I could be there - but yanno. Same old, same old.
10th-May-2011 06:27 pm (UTC)
It's probably worth repeating, "Don't sneak up from behind and hug me. Ever."

I'm getting kind of wistful at all the WisCon posts, but this year I'm going to a kink event the week after instead. Hope you all have a fab time!

Edited at 2011-05-10 06:28 pm (UTC)
10th-May-2011 06:29 pm (UTC)
I will repeat, thanks to multiple reminders here. :) Wiscon that's less of an issue, but it can't hurt to say!
10th-May-2011 06:31 pm (UTC)
Looks like kyburg and I hit post at the same time. :)
10th-May-2011 06:30 pm (UTC)
10th-May-2011 06:44 pm (UTC)
This is worth it, for seeing you bouncy. (And for seeing you geek out over My Little Pony, since of course we're adults now and we get to decide what THAT means.) Enjoy!
10th-May-2011 06:53 pm (UTC)
But basically, I am a grown-ass woman and I can manage my disabilities, and I know people mean well when they constantly touch base about whether I'm okay, but it gets tiring and I get to feeling othered. So please assume that I am okay. If I do need any kind of assistance, I promise I'll let you know.


I wish people understood this about me, too. Yes, I have fibro. Yes, I know how to manage it. Yes, I know my limits and will let you know when I've hit them. Until then, stop treating me like a child and/or a fragile china-doll. Seriously, I've been described by some as a "tough broad." I do not need to be checked up on constantly or treated extra-carefully.
11th-May-2011 12:21 pm (UTC)
Yeah I was going to respond to this too; it's cool to ask if I need help. Once. After that it's annoying and insulting. At almost 34 years old, disabled my entire life, I know what I'm capable of and what I'm not, and I know how to ask for help if it's needed.
11th-May-2011 12:22 pm (UTC)
Also, forgot to mention: at 4'11" you will not be the short one if we ever are in a room together; I've got you beat by 6 inches.
10th-May-2011 08:57 pm (UTC)
I'll definitely see you there!
10th-May-2011 09:23 pm (UTC)
I will try to make sure to say hi and introduce myself, instead of occasionally staring at you like I think I did at Arisia. (Sorry about that; I'm sometimes shy but usually manage not to be rude with it.)
12th-May-2011 07:46 pm (UTC)
I get so overwhelmed at Arisia that I probably didn't even notice; no worries! But yeah, I'd love to meet you!
11th-May-2011 02:37 am (UTC)
See you there!
12th-May-2011 07:47 pm (UTC)
11th-May-2011 02:41 am (UTC)
Gender identification: I'm firmly male, but I don't fit all the "all men are like this" criteria. And I try not to assume that other people fit all criteria of their apparent gender.
11th-May-2011 03:42 am (UTC)
Every Wiscon prep post makes me wistful I'm not going. Ah well. Maybe next year.

Meanwhile, Everything is drag. Oh, yes!
12th-May-2011 07:47 pm (UTC)
You should totally go next year! So fun. It's the only con I really travel for.
12th-May-2011 08:06 pm (UTC)
Given that I would have needed financial assistance, and that I would have wanted to take my kids (and thus needing *two* airline tickets, and not being an easy roomie to share with)...it seemed like too much. I think *now*, on the eve of the con, that my kids would have loved the experience, and done just fine. I wasn't sure of it before.

Next year I'd need either *three* tickets or to leave them behind. Looking kind of difficult. :(
12th-May-2011 08:10 pm (UTC)
Sympathy! Adam and Elayna would love to go, but we've only been able to afford it for one of us. If we drive out with sindrian next year, maybe!
12th-May-2011 08:15 pm (UTC)

Mine are almost 2 and almost 4 right now. Kind of a hard age for me to want to be over a thousand miles away.

I will be doing bittercon and waiting for conreports eagerly!
12th-May-2011 08:19 pm (UTC)
Elayna is so at the perfect age to get so much out of it, is what frustrates me. But airfare is so prohibitive. :(
12th-May-2011 11:25 pm (UTC)
Would wearing a housewife apron over a suit qualify for the dance?
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