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10th-Mar-2011 07:42 am
State of the 'Song
I mostly slept last night.

If we do not get Explo funding I do not know what we are going to do. Elayna is being stubborn. I have offered Shakespeare camp, science stuff, all manner of cool things, but apparently it is Explo or GTFO. And I just checked, and apparently we won't know if we got scholarship funds until midApril, which does not leave us much time to raise the remaining funds. My only idea is that we could raise funds in the meantime if we pick a charity to give them to if they turn out to be unnecessary or insufficient; I could keep track and refund people, but that's complicated, and I like to think people sponsoring Elayna's summer activities would be cool with sponsoring a kid-oriented charity. I'm just in the beginning stages of pondering this, though, and it'll likely be influenced by what my parents have to say about their part of the Explo funding this weekend.

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Work. Writing, I hope; didn't get any done yesterday. Desperately cleaning - my parents arrive tomorrow afternoon. I'm torn on dinner with a visiting acquaintance just because I doubt my time and energy; Adam isn't feeling well and thus isn't able to do much cleaning, and Elayna is Elayna. I wish I'd been able to get more done this week, but my energy level is still not anywhere near where it should be.

EDIT: Except blossoming migraine HI.
10th-Mar-2011 12:44 pm (UTC)
I will help with Explo funding. She deserves it, you deserve it.
10th-Mar-2011 01:18 pm (UTC)
What unpredictable people. I thought your parents' justification for buying you a stupid amount of furniture was that they thought there was no Explo this year to help with.

I don't think it shows a lack of gratitude to simply not want to be jerked around about whether a gift is coming or not.
10th-Mar-2011 01:23 pm (UTC)
They're not jerking us around here; they'll help out with Explo, but Explo costs MUCH more than a new furniture set. The scholarship info will come from Explo, not the parents.
10th-Mar-2011 05:50 pm (UTC)
Seconding Adam. The Conversation may be "we're willing to give you the amount of money we'd've spent on a living room set, but not the amount of money we gave you last year" - which would still be a significant amount of money, but would also fall short of what we would need.

And then again I may be worried about nothing.
10th-Mar-2011 07:28 pm (UTC)
Ah. I retract my crankiness.

The scarf I'm knitting for BARCC is going quickly. Perhaps I'll have time to whip something up to auction for Elayna's Educational Amazingness, too.

(I think next year, Barcc gets a shawl. My fingers are liking knitting lace.)
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10th-Mar-2011 05:29 pm (UTC)
10th-Mar-2011 07:46 pm (UTC)
Double this.
11th-Mar-2011 03:52 am (UTC)
10th-Mar-2011 02:12 pm (UTC)
consider Kickstarter? they have 'all or nothing funding', with pledges. Set it up for the fundraising deadline to be end of April. If you get scholarship funding, cancel the project and no one will be charged. If you don't, then you'll have the lead time you need.
10th-Mar-2011 07:20 pm (UTC)
Kickstarter or Indiego. (Indiego still does charge people, they just take a higher cut of what you get. I suspect Kickstarter is more appropriate in this case.)
10th-Mar-2011 02:21 pm (UTC)

Just emailed you with solution-suggestion. You should take me up on it.

10th-Mar-2011 02:40 pm (UTC)
"if we pick a charity to give them to if they turn out to be unnecessary or insufficien"

If I contribute, and it turns out to be one of the above, I'd like to see the "charity" be Elayna's College Fund.
10th-Mar-2011 02:46 pm (UTC)
That's what I would have said if I'd thought of it. Since I didn't, thank you for thinking of it and posting this comment!
10th-Mar-2011 03:34 pm (UTC)
I'd be good with either that solution or another kid-oriented charity.
10th-Mar-2011 03:16 pm (UTC)
I came in to suggest that any overflow be donated to Explo's scholorship fund to help out any other kids, but extra going to Elayna's college fund is an equally good idea.
10th-Mar-2011 03:50 pm (UTC)
You could raise funds for Explo... then if you get a scholarship, donate those funds to Explo so someone else gets to go instead.

edit: or her collage fund, that's a good idea up there!

Edited at 2011-03-10 03:51 pm (UTC)
10th-Mar-2011 03:55 pm (UTC)
Oh, I wanted to thank you for that My Little Pony story yesterday. It got quite a reaction around these parts.
10th-Mar-2011 05:37 pm (UTC)
I don't know about anyone else out there, but I've noticed two things*, a--she goes to Explo, and b--y'all don't notice it's funding time until too late/almost too late. Others may've noticed this also (I dunno). If they have, then like me, they may have $x set aside for the cause.

I would be just fine with tossing in toward another kid's Explo, some other kid activity, or whatever... if her Explo didn't happen, or funds weren't needed.

I'd be even more fine with tossing it toward a college-fund, or even other Elayna semi-educational/festive type activites (like cons, or a hobby or whatever.)

In truth and in short, once I'd turn over my $ I've set aside, I trust you to do whatever with it.

*and if this sounds attack-y, I do NOT mean it like that AT ALL
10th-Mar-2011 05:48 pm (UTC)
Oh, it doesn't sound attack-y.

The problem this year is that, after last summer, she told us she didn't want to go to Explo this year. She wanted to stay local and get a job, which is what her other friends did last summer. So the timing issue here is that she'd told us no Explo and then unexpectedly reversed course. Just barely in time to get our financial aid application in, thank goodness. So in past years, it was "aagh, gotta fundraise." This year, since I have a job, it would've been easier for us to set aside the bulk of the money in advance - but we just didn't know until like last week that she'd changed her mind and that we'd need the money.

So yes! If she hadn't told us she wanted to stay local, this year we actually would've been financially prepared. Oh Elayna.

I do hate the fundraising. *sigh* I don't mind it being for BARCC or other causes, but I feel weird about being "send my kid to camp!" I dunno. We'll see what my parents and Adam's mom have to say.
10th-Mar-2011 06:33 pm (UTC)
Ahh. I see.

Hrm. I can see why you'd be more bothered by that. I tend to toss stuff toward your causes when I can, so I may be biased... but... I've rather enjoyed helping send Elayna to Explo the last few years.

The world can use more awesome people. I doubt I'm having any... may as well help your awesome kid.
10th-Mar-2011 08:12 pm (UTC)
I'm going to say something, and I hope it's not taken the wrong way, because it's not meant as an attack, but a sincere question/opinion that just happens to lean in the opposite direction -- devils advocate if you will.

I know that Elayna is a good kid, but her changing her mind so late in the game is going to impact a lot of people, including yourself, to put in a helluva lot of effort to do stuff at the last minute, INSTEAD of starting preparations the year before (not to mention the finances)

This isn't fair to you or anyone else, honestly. You're going to put in a lot of time and effort to do the fundraising. Yes Elayna will help, but I know you, shira, and you're going to do the bulk of the lifting, because you're you and you love Elayna (this is awesome).

But, she's at the age where this type of change-of-course decision SHOULD have consequences.

I know that Explo has done wonderful things for her, and I understand her desire to go (HECK, I want to go to Explo!). I know that people would be willing to totally help out, and that (knowing you), you would totally make it happen. (And I think it's great)

Perhaps, it might behoove her to *not* be going to Explo even if she doesn't get the scholarship? IF only to learn the lesson that preparation is necessary for the important things you want in life -- and that you can't expect people to immediately come to your aid if you change your mind late in the game.


Again, I mean no offense by my musings and opinion, but I think it might be something to consider. Especially as you have been quite ill for the past several weeks and have a lot on your plate with everything else. I know that you and Adam want only the best for Elayna, so I understand why you would do it.

anyhoo..I put my thoughts out there.
10th-Mar-2011 08:19 pm (UTC)
I take no offense whatsoever. *hug*

And yes, this is already under consideration. If she gets a full scholarship, or a partial scholarship plus enough from the grandparents that we don't have to cover all that much, she can go, no problem.

But given that my parents have said "we'll talk about that when we get here," I've already told her that Explo might not happen this year due to lack of time to make up the potential financial shortfall. She doesn't *like* it. But if that's what has to be, it won't be out of the blue; she's been informed.

Part of the reason I'm even considering the fundraising is that I'd already gotten e-mails from people asking if they could help - so if it is attainable, and people *want* to help, that can happen. But I'm definitely not going to be doing any sort of pushing to get people to chip in for it - I feel weird about doing that for "kid changed her mind and wants to go to camp" in a way that I don't for "cat needs emergency surgery". Y'know?
10th-Mar-2011 09:35 pm (UTC) - Ya I get it totally.
I figured you might have said something to that effect to her, but just wanted to put in my two cents.

I think its great people are willing to help out, and I understand that weird feeling that you're experiencing. One is an *emergency* that affects life & death. The other one is just summer experience. The gravity between the two is vast.

You guys are awesome parents. I hope Elayna realizes that (i'm sure she does). I would have been happy if my parents had attempted 1/10th of the things that you guys do for her.
10th-Mar-2011 10:55 pm (UTC)
Dude, if that's an attack it's one of the most gentle and affectionate I have ever encountered. Not at all what I'd expect from a fencer! ;-P
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