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I think one of my unofficial relationship criteria is… 
8th-Feb-2011 04:50 pm
Figuring shit out
I think one of my unofficial relationship criteria is "amused/entertained/interested in my constant layers of self-examination and dissection of every random thought." At the very least "not annoyed by same".

I seriously have ruled potential people out when they've said "don't analyze this." Because have you met me?

This thought brought to you by Gchat conversations with awesome people who ask "why?" because they know I like figuring it out.

Unrelated: My breathing is so much better today, you guys, I have some energy and some brain back yay.
8th-Feb-2011 09:51 pm (UTC)
Haven't met you yet...

Maybe at WorldCon in Chicago?
8th-Feb-2011 09:52 pm (UTC)
As someone who just wrote an entire entry on how he feels about reading stories from people he knows, I sympathize with this.
8th-Feb-2011 10:11 pm (UTC)
8th-Feb-2011 10:11 pm (UTC)

But you know enough about me from LJ to not be surprised by my hyperanalysis anyway.
9th-Feb-2011 05:20 am (UTC)
Not to mention your health...


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8th-Feb-2011 10:00 pm (UTC)
I second both notions :)
8th-Feb-2011 10:09 pm (UTC)
Your earlier post today made me cry.

This one cheered me up immensely.

Thank you.
8th-Feb-2011 10:12 pm (UTC)
Which one? Why?

Glad this one helped!
8th-Feb-2011 10:26 pm (UTC)
The awesome post.

I remember thinking of myself as awesome. I don't know where I misplaced it in the last five years. I don't know whether I gave it away, or had it taken from me (it's a long story). But I'm having trouble (at least today). My *kids* are awesome. Me? *sigh*
8th-Feb-2011 10:28 pm (UTC)
I hope you rediscover your awesome! I am convinced that it is there.
8th-Feb-2011 10:36 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I'm pretty sure it's down the corner from abject and angry. I seem to have hit a spot of apathetic, but awesome is surely somewhere nearby now.
8th-Feb-2011 10:09 pm (UTC)
I'm the same way. On a similar note, any woman I date has to have some sense of ambition. Which is why I haven't been on any dates with the people at the seminary I'm studying at--most of the women just want to grab onto a guy for her MRS degree, so to speak, and I think that there's so much else to life than simply "getting married and having a family."

9th-Feb-2011 12:25 pm (UTC)
If someone's ambition is not one you value personally, it doesn't stand to reason that they therefore lack ambition entirely.
9th-Feb-2011 12:28 pm (UTC)
True. I guess it's more of a "I don't understand your ambition" sort of thing when you look at things that way.
8th-Feb-2011 10:10 pm (UTC)
Sadly, that can be a trigger.
8th-Feb-2011 10:14 pm (UTC)

(Is asking why analyzing too much?)

For me, lack of self-examination leaves me feeling unsteady. I don't like reacting to things and not understanding why.
8th-Feb-2011 10:17 pm (UTC)
See, and now I will (as I so often am) be the dissenting voice and say that sometimes going down the rabbit hole just leads to a labyrinthine warren and no answers.

Of course, exploring it enough to determine it IS the kind of thing that leads to no answers is an examination/answer of sorts, I suppose.


Of course, anyone who strictly says "looking at a relationship will kill it because if you look at it you destroy the mystery" is an idiot. There is a balance between worrying something to death and hoping for blissful ignorance to carry you through with a Fool's Grace.
8th-Feb-2011 10:22 pm (UTC)
I've played the Fool a time or two.

And yeah, I get the rabbit hole thing. I personally find that I have to keep my mind busy on multiple tracks to avoid living in the rabbit hole. "No, really, I am listening to three albums in my head simultaneously as I watch this movie and knit and carry on two Gchat conversations."

Well, I have to pause the knitting for the conversations.

The specific prompt here was that someone mentioned a thing that my brain felt was an exception to a fairly ironclad rule, and the person was genuinely interested in my reasoning behind that being an exception. Which was a good thing because I was going to tell them anyway.
8th-Feb-2011 10:42 pm (UTC)
Asthma makes you stooopid. So stoopid you don't realize it is the asthma making you stooopid.

There was a day last month when I was sitting at my desk, practically falling asleep in my chair, fatigued beyond belief, and unable to form coherent thoughts. "Why!?!? Why do I feel so, so stoooopid?!?" And then I realized I was taking little teacup breaths and couldn't remember the last time I hadn't been taking little teacup breaths.
9th-Feb-2011 04:03 am (UTC)
I wish I was better at connecting with you. Because really, you have created so much self-examination just from my following your self examinations over the last year. And part of me really wants to be on the level of friendship where I can ask what prompted this!
9th-Feb-2011 06:10 am (UTC)
I'm quite fond of asking "why." And quite fond of the way you ask "why." :)
9th-Feb-2011 09:41 am (UTC)
As an asthmatic child of the 80s, I love telling people "breathing is fundamental."

Yeah. It amazing how clarity of lungs = clarity of brain. Glad you're feeling better.
9th-Feb-2011 11:40 am (UTC)
Glad your breathing is better. And awesome Icon :)
9th-Feb-2011 02:22 pm (UTC)
Yay on both counts!
11th-Feb-2011 12:09 am (UTC)
I seriously have ruled potential people out when they've said "don't analyze this."

What happens when you ask them, why not?
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