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Quoting for Truth 
9th-Dec-2010 06:14 pm
Cara Kulwicki of The Curvature (one of the best feminist blogs out there) has this to say on her Tumblr. And I read it and I was like YES YES THIS A MILLION TIMES THIS. This is why Polanski shit and Assange shit and all the other victim-blaming, perpetrator(or alleged perpetrator)-exalting shit makes me sick to my damn stomach and makes me want to punch the world in the face, twists my guts...

And of course the only comments on the BARCC blog so far are a false-accusations dude and a dude who is more interested in my relationship structure than on the meticulously researched and assembled post about important shit. Because who I'm fucking is the important thing here, amirite? Because I'm a chick and my vagina and who gets to use it > my scholarship.

But yes, THIS A MILLION TIMES THIS re: Cara's post and I am reproducing the whole damn thing below.

[All words below this point are from Cara's post.]

Right now? The time, right now, when everyone is running around like chickens with their heads cut off talking about how women LIE about rape, and anyway it WASN’T rape, because once she says yes you can do anything you like to her ammirite, bro?, and what’s this about maybe she was sleeping LALALALA I CAN HEAR YOU, sluts are just jealous, and they regret it in the morning, so they start international furors against some poor guy that the world is already pissed off at, with no good reason because he wasn’t even VIOLENT?


This right now is probably not a good time to say “I’m real happy for you, and Imma let you finish about all of this girly rape apologism stuff, but the fact is that Assange is only being charged with anything because of Wikileaks.”

Because you know what? Chances are we know that. Chances are, it really fucking hurts to see governments finally taking rape “seriously,” only to know that they’re likely not taking it seriously at all, that they couldn’t care any less about rape than all of the librul d00ds running around talking about how women are lying whores and CIA operatives and radical feminists but lying whores especially, and are just using violence against women to their own ends in an attempt to shut down work that we support.

CHANCES ARE THAT HURTS A LOT. And that it hurts us, and upsets us, and affects us a whole lot more acutely than it affects you, dude, who thought now was the perfect time to mansplain this shit. Chances are we’re not stupid. And we know. And maybe also we’re feminist bloggers who spend EVERY SINGLE FUCKING DAY WRITING ABOUT HOW NO ONE CARES ABOUT RAPE, so if anyone knows that no one would care if Assange raped an entire fucking country of women except he pissed some governments off, it’s us.

[And maybe this shit doesn’t just hurt, maybe it’s also really triggering. Maybe seeing people you thought knew better spreading lies about what the charges are, describing them as downplayed charges that are STILL RAPE while claiming that they aren’t rape, and saying over and over again that violating women’s bodies isn’t violent because hey it’s just our bodies and if there’s not a fist hitting us in the jaw it doesn’t fucking matter, IS REALLY FUCKING TRIGGERING. Maybe it reminds us of how no one thinks our rapes count, or that if we were raped today that no one would care, and that is not just upsetting, but triggering as hell. It seems quite possible, that to some of us, it just might be.]

So maybe? Maybe right now? In this moment where I’m sure you have a whole lot to say but clearly haven’t thought for even half a fucking second about whether or not anyone is interested in hearing it? Maybe you should consider SHUTTING THE FUCK UP.
9th-Dec-2010 11:17 pm (UTC)
Quoted for Truth, indeed.
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9th-Dec-2010 11:43 pm (UTC)
Yeah. In cases like this, it takes me a few days to put my brain together to do a substantive post, because I start off all RAGE.
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10th-Dec-2010 12:02 am (UTC)
What y'all said. The rage, it chokes my normally sparkling communications skilz.

I really have to practice some deep, deep meditation in case some dudebro mansplains this to me...'cause I SO cannot afford bail for a homicide charge right now.
10th-Dec-2010 01:03 am (UTC)
The sad truth is that most men cannot (or will not) understand what a violation It is, or how deeply it can affect your life. In this day and age, when victim advocacy and support are more prevalent than they have been in years past (certainly more prevalent than when I needed it 15 years ago), after all these years we've had to increase our knowledge and wisdom, ignorance and idiocy are still commonplace.
10th-Dec-2010 02:20 am (UTC)
Yeah, I hate having it mansplained to me when I try to bring up the subject. Eurrgh.

The Curvature is awesome in general. Digression: I love her deconstructions of the Beatles mythology and her exposure of the John-Yoko relationship and the props she gives Yoko.
15th-Dec-2010 04:38 am (UTC)
Thank you.
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