Mark and I were talking over dinner about my oaths, specifically the one against lying (I must never lie; I can bend light around the truth if it's to protect another person, but otherwise no), and he said "Kol Nidre."
Mark: "Any oath you make under duress is considered nonbinding. You can release those."
Me: "! ..."
Mark: "I have perplexed you."
I have such an elaborate network of oaths and codes and strictures, but they've all grown around each other; some are structure and substructure. How do I tell? Mark wondered how I could not know some of them were under duress, but - a large part of my early life was under duress, largely in ways I didn't figure out til later. This - this is a large task. This is surgery.
I'm keeping the one against lying. I'm ditching the summoning ones. I'll see what else I find.