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Anonymous Sex Confessional 
22nd-Jul-2010 07:32 am
Typewriter - tell me about it
slipjig ran one of these this week; it's been a long time since I did it, so here we go.

I will copy his rules:

Anonymous comments are enabled for the next 48 hours, and IPs are not being logged. Share something about you sexually: wants, experiences, preferences, fears. Anything goes, and yes, this applies even if you don't have a sex life right now. Confession is good for the soul.

The three disclaimers:

1) You may safely assume that the comments to this post contain text of an NC-17 nature. Treat accordingly.

2) The management reserves the right to cease operation of the confessional at any time. Drama and abusive language will not be tolerated.

3) Feel free to link to this post from your own journal. The more, the merrier.

Pay close attention to #2. Don't make me turn this blog around.

Ready set go.

EDIT: Also, I want to make it clear to anyone coming in from elsewhere that this is a kink-friendly and judgment-free space. The nature of this sort of confessional is that sometimes people will be confessing things that are difficult for them to talk about. As long as it's all consensual, it's all okay here.
22nd-Jul-2010 12:12 pm (UTC)
I have had bad luck with friends with benefits in the past... except when they're long-distance. It seems like the distance helps defuse the drama that comes with the territory. It also means I don't get laid as much, but oh well. :-)
22nd-Jul-2010 12:44 pm (UTC)
I fear that sex with the person I intend to stay with forever will not become as good as it was with my previous lover. We're still fairly new, and I plan on helping us make it better, but this fear is the underlying cause.
22nd-Jul-2010 01:03 pm (UTC)
I am horny beyond recognition, and yet it hurts too much (physically, not emotionally) to be touched. I can't even masturbate. I don't know what to do.
22nd-Jul-2010 01:16 pm (UTC)
I'm male. I have a female friend... we're very good friends... who I really want to have sex with.

I don't want to wreck the friendship. I just really want to bend them over and the both of us have some fun!

I'm too afraid to ruin what I already have with them to risk asking them, though.
27th-Jul-2010 03:06 am (UTC)
I'm female. I have a male friend. We're very good friends. Been very good friends for a long time. I really want to have sex with him. I have no idea whether he has sexual interest in me, but I know he loves me very very deeply. He does not form attachments easily.

I've told him how I felt about him.

He didn't respond to that. I know it made him uncomfortable. Then when I told him the last bit, he wanted to see me again after blowing me off a couple of times. So that's coming up.

I'm married. In a monogamous relationship. I'd blow that in a heartbeat because I already feel like I'm cheating on the love of my life. Don't get me wrong. I adore my husband and wouldn't leave him.

But I met my friend first. If we hadn't lost track of each other at one point (my fault), I'd have married him instead.

Truth is, if my husband died, I'd ask my friend to marry me moments later.

Until then, I don't want him to get remote again. I want him. I think about him all the time. He won't tell me what he's feeling.

There's no good solution for this.
22nd-Jul-2010 01:23 pm (UTC)
My partner's depression is seriously hurting our sex life. Either he's too depressed to be interested, or his antidepressant makes it almost impossible for him to ejaculate. The poly credo of "just get another partner" won't work for me. I don't just want a stunt cock; I want him.
22nd-Jul-2010 03:24 pm (UTC) - tangential
That's so not the poly credo. To me, monogamy is "you've already got one, why would you want any others?" while polyamory is "people are not interchangeable, they cannot be substituted for one another." I think that's the poly credo.
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22nd-Jul-2010 01:41 pm (UTC)
My hormones have been through the roof this month for reasons unknown. It's probably for the best that I'm isolated at the moment, because if I had available local partners, I don't think I'd ever stop fucking.
22nd-Jul-2010 11:50 pm (UTC)
I've also been reeeeaaally horny lately. I thought this of myself for a while, but extended sex (not quickies) 3 times a day completely satiates me for about 24 hours. not that i and my partners have that much free time
22nd-Jul-2010 01:45 pm (UTC)
I don't like mouth kissing. I like licks and nips and kisses and bites pretty much everywhere else, but I don't like mouth kissing. I think the best "makeout" sessions I ever had were when I was sick so there was no kissing allowed.

It's not that I'm grossed out by it; I just don't find it fun.
22nd-Jul-2010 04:34 pm (UTC)
I've only just managed to get to "not grossed out by it", and even then, not all the time.

So, with you there.
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22nd-Jul-2010 01:52 pm (UTC)
It seems that a large part of poly-focus is on sexual interaction, while mine is on relationship-building. I want to *know* someone before I date them, before I sex them up. Is that so wrong?
22nd-Jul-2010 01:53 pm (UTC)
I'm with you on that.

Edit: Which is not to say we need to be in a massive committed relationship, just that people shouldn't open with "Nice boots, wanna fuck?"

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22nd-Jul-2010 01:59 pm (UTC)
I bitch about pushy bottoms all the time, but the truth is, I'm the pushiest and bitchest of them all. I need someone with a fucking spine who isn't afraid to play a little rough, someone to shut my smart mouth and fill my pussy and fuck the attitude right out of me. Someone who can make me wet with a well-phrased order, someone who can make me squirm with just a breath on my neck.

So far, everyone I've tried has come up painfully short.

My submission is a gift and I'm aching to give it to someone, but it has to be someone who wants to WORK for it. I'm worth it, I swear.

I'm not a wild horse to be broken, I'm a wild fire burning out of control. You need to learn how to control me. And then, oh, and then...

Jesus fuck, I am so goddamn horny.
22nd-Jul-2010 08:46 pm (UTC)
I would love to top someone like you.
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22nd-Jul-2010 02:02 pm (UTC)
I have had exactly two sexual partners in my life, the second of whom I married.

The problem is...I'm basically kinky, my partner is very much not so. Not that they are turned off by it, it's just that my partner can't see the point, or goes off in fits of giggles at the idea... [yes, *ouch!*]

This leaves me feeling pretty unsatisfied. I love my partner, but plain vanilla sex is like only ever eating mac&cheese, after a bit I go right off the idea. Problem is.. I still want sex.

Giving serious consideration to finding someone with whom I can play, but not being part of the kinkster scene, I have no idea how, or what it'd do to our relationship...
22nd-Jul-2010 02:28 pm (UTC)
go to fetlife.com
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22nd-Jul-2010 02:18 pm (UTC)
The other night I ran into a guy who's somewhere between a friend-of-a-friend and a friend. This is the guy with whom I have had the most intense sex of my life. The thing is, he likes it rough. And when I'm with him, it's fantastic. And then afterwards when I'm bruised and bleeding and can't have sex or wear a tank top for a week or so I think "Maybe this guy is too rough for me."

And I really thought about asking if he wanted to hook up again. And I decided I didn't want to deal with the aftermath. But I'm still considering it.
22nd-Jul-2010 02:25 pm (UTC)
I didn't have sex for the first time until after I had been married for a year. It was not due to a lack of desire. I had tried to have sex many times even with people before I met my husband but it hurt like hell. Like want to throw up it hurts so bad. All the gynos I went to told me I needed to "relax." Thanks to a gyno who actually listened and did her job, it was discovered my hymen was till in tact at 28 and very thick...like I needed surgery to have it removed thick. Now I can have all the sex I want. And I LOVE sex. And my husband is a great sex partner. But sometimes I wonder about sex with other people since I never had the chance to have sex with anyone but him. I am especially wish I could have the chance to have sex with an ex of mine because we always wanted to have sex together but couldn't. I am not even in touch with the ex anymore but its just a sense of "I never got to do this" curiosity.
22nd-Jul-2010 10:33 pm (UTC)
Ask the husband if he's okay with you experimenting elsewhere?
22nd-Jul-2010 02:25 pm (UTC)
I've given up on sex. I cannot find a partner who cares for anything other than their own pleasure, who brings anything to the table other than their simple presence.

I haven't felt sexy in my entire life.
23rd-Jul-2010 03:27 pm (UTC)
Wow. We should trade partners, or something.

I can't find anyone who isn't obsessed with getting me off or doing what I want, as long as what I want involves getting me off. Which is usually *not* what I want.
22nd-Jul-2010 02:35 pm (UTC)
I don't think I have ever felt sexy in my life. I've had several sexual partners and almost all of them were relationships of some kind. Almost every single one has ended in disaster. I've given up trying to find anyone who understands me, my dominance, my body, or that even as a dominant, I need to be held and cuddled too sometimes. I despair that I am too dominant, moody, smart, fat, and sexual for anyone to really desire not just sexually but relationship wise too.
22nd-Jul-2010 09:15 pm (UTC)
I suspect we'd get along really well.
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22nd-Jul-2010 03:07 pm (UTC)
I wish that we had more kink in the bedroom. I still consider us as being in a D/S relationship even though it's been so long that there has been anything overtly of that nature in a very very long time.
And I worry that right now all of our sex is focused on baby-making. It's still good, and we're having a lot more of it, but it's still baby-making sex.
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