Magical Truthsaying Bastard Shadesong (shadesong) wrote,
Magical Truthsaying Bastard Shadesong

For the record, WRT to the last post:

I accept that I am awesome. (You like me, you really like me!)

My point is that by being excessively singled-out, the impression gets giving that other people are not equally awesome, and they are. This is especially dangerous because sexual assault survivors often end up judging their recovery against the recovery of others, so if the constant message is that I am Excessively Special, we run the risk of other people feeling like they're not going to end up as totally okay as I am, because they're not Excessively Special. And everyone can get here. I promise. But when someone's feeling broken, that can be hard for them to believe, and that totally unintended message that some of us are more special than others can take root in the psyche and do damage.

And I'm not saying yeah, everyone can do all the BARCC stuff I do; it's hard stuff, and some people are not in a place where they can do that, and that's fine too. People need to take care of themselves the best way they can, and this is not the path for everyone ever. Especially the survivor-speech stuff. That's just not for everyone, and that's fine. So yeah, I do a lot of social change work around this - but that's what I need to do, for myself. I need to be working for that change, and I'm in a place and with a family and community that give me the support I need to do that. Other people need to do what they need to do. It's not one-size-fits-all.

It may seem weird bragging about being a superhero but also saying that I'm not that Special. It's just that I think we can all be superheroes in our own way, championing the causes that mean the most to us.

"How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world!"
--Anne Frank
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