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Conversations with my mother 
14th-Mar-2010 12:20 pm
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Copy/pasted from a comment elsejournal.

A conversation with my mother, from yesterday:

We are out for brunch. The brunch place is mostly bread-related, with eggs (which I don't eat). I end up getting a fruit plate.

Me: "I just worry that, with stuff like the fruit plate today and the salad last night instead of heartier meals, I'll lose more weight."
Mom, eyeing me critically: "You could stand to lose a few pounds."


I've lost 37 pounds in the less-than-a-year since I came off Lyrica. So quickly that half my hair has fallen out. I'm a US size 4 or 6, depending; I'm a small at H&M, according to yesterday's shopping.

And I am not thin enough for her. Only at a size 0 am I thin enough for her. *Maybe* at a 2. Oh, the things that got said in that house when I was a size 12. *sigh*

Hugging her is like hugging a sack of coat hangers. All bone.

She'll be over in about half an hour. Lucky me. At least I get to pick the restaurant tonight; I'm choosing one with an extensive gluten-free menu so I can eat real food!


So, Boston GF folks, I have four restaurants I'm eyeing; any recommendations? Scampo, Nebo, Aquitaine, and Evoo are certainly options. I hear good things about Oleana, but it's probably too foreign-foody for them. Craigie on Main and Ten Tables are two I've been curious about, but I haven't heard anything about how they do with gluten-free.

EDIT: Nebo and Evoo are closed Sunday argh. Dali and Small PLates are options if I want to go somewhere I've been before.
14th-Mar-2010 04:29 pm (UTC)
I hope I'm not the only one who finds the name of the brunch place ironic in the context of the discussion. :,
14th-Mar-2010 04:31 pm (UTC)

And if you are ever in Boston, I'm taking you there; they are om nom nom. I just can't eat there anymore. :(
14th-Mar-2010 04:36 pm (UTC)
Sigh... I am so sorry you have to go through this...
14th-Mar-2010 04:38 pm (UTC)
I'm not out in Boston anymore, but my observation on GF restaurant cooking is that sometimes the best intentions are ruined by cross-contamination. I see some fried things on Nebo's GF menu, do they have a dedicated fryer? And for their pizzas, are they cooked on dedicated pizza stones, etc? Are they cut with dedicated utensils, or with the same pizza cutter that cuts every other glutenated pizza?

And I do see that even if you're ordering off their GF menu, you have to specifically order the GF pasta or pizza crust to be used, which is an extra charge.

These might be some questions to call ahead and ask the manager about before deciding to go there, if others don't chime in with answers.
14th-Mar-2010 04:44 pm (UTC)
Their Yelp reviews from celiacs are positive... and celiacs on Yelp are not shy about calling out cross-contamination issues! But I see they're closed on Sunday, so they're a no, alas.
14th-Mar-2010 04:52 pm (UTC)
Sorry your mom is bugfuck. I wish you luck figuring out ways to not let her insanity press any emotional buttons, but that is often an uphill climb.
14th-Mar-2010 04:59 pm (UTC)
Dude, your mom is totally wrong. If you lose any more weight, how could you remain bootylicious?
14th-Mar-2010 05:07 pm (UTC)
your mom wants you to lose more weight? what's wrong with her?

When you were 37 pounds heavier I still thought of you as rather small.

Edited at 2010-03-14 05:08 pm (UTC)
14th-Mar-2010 05:50 pm (UTC)

Hello Kali! is pissed.
14th-Mar-2010 05:39 pm (UTC)
Great gravy on a stick. Your mom is on absolute crack.

I'm glad to see it sounds like you know that already, but just sayin' in case you wanted the reassurance. Holy hell.
14th-Mar-2010 06:10 pm (UTC)
Now I'm imagining an Absolut Vodka ad with "Absolut Crack" on the title and something from inside back cover of Mad magazine for the painting.
14th-Mar-2010 06:01 pm (UTC)
I don't understand "size 0." What does that even MEAN? That you vanish if you turn your profile to someone? That your body is null? That it does not exist? Is THAT the ideal state of being? NON-BEING?

Whiskey, Tango, with a healthy helping of FOXTROT.
14th-Mar-2010 06:09 pm (UTC)
Are there negative sizes?
14th-Mar-2010 06:19 pm (UTC)
I'm stunned at your mom thinking you should/could lose more weight. She sounds like nothing would ever satisfy or placate her. What a terrible way to go through life. I think you are perfect just as you are.
14th-Mar-2010 06:36 pm (UTC)
My Jewish mom always wants me to eat more. I thought all Jewish moms were like that.
14th-Mar-2010 06:57 pm (UTC)
what would your mom say if you responded with, "Actually, I like the weight I'm at now, and I'd rather not lose any more. Please don't tell me that again." Said in a level no-nonsense tone...
14th-Mar-2010 11:09 pm (UTC)
I'm guessing Epic Butthurt would ensue.
14th-Mar-2010 06:58 pm (UTC)
my mouth actually dropped open when i read what your mom said. my mom's stopped this kind of thing, finally, at my explicit and constant insistence. but it took a long time.
14th-Mar-2010 07:11 pm (UTC)
Holy crap, lose weight and you're a size 4/6?? I'm a size 12 (granted, I'm about 8 inches taller than you) and I feel like I'm a decent size, so I'd figure for your height you're probably proportionally fine! I like people to be cuddly, not bony
14th-Mar-2010 07:27 pm (UTC)
*shakes her head sadly* And I bet hugging you is an awesome experience, size 0 - size 20, wherever you happen to be. I'm sorry you have to be dragged down by someone so fundamentally unhappy about having a body. Hopefully the restaurant is a good experience!
14th-Mar-2010 07:38 pm (UTC)
Good grief, I'm sorry about that. That's ridiculous and wrong.
14th-Mar-2010 07:58 pm (UTC)
I am reminded of this comic:
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