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Scheherazade in Blue Jeans
freelance alchemist
26th-Feb-2010 07:28 am
Happy birthday to mebib!

Happy early birthday to sleigh, who advances a year over the weekend!

Unaccountably exhausted with bonus sore throat. Tea today. I am NOT ALLOWED to get sick. I have Flogging Molly tomorrow!

Status of the 'song
I have required a nap after work every day this week. I need that cycle broken - I have too much to do to lose every afternoon. But the glutening that knocked me out all Tuesday pretty much crushed my week.

This also means no writing is getting done, which makes me argh. I have today and tomorrow to write a story.

Link Soup
It is all rape culture all the time up in here, I am just saying.

* The Center for Public Integrity has launched part two of their coverage of campus sexual assault. Feministing reacts. The Boston Glove gives the local view.

* Rape in fandom. Note: The rape did not occur at SwanCon; the rapist and his victim met there. It looks like he was one of those wandering pressure-y massage guys. I always want to punch them in the face. The survivor's post. Here are some community reactions.

* Women at war: sexual violence in the military.
* Med students perform pelvic exams on anesthetized women.
* CabWise in England using the threat of rape to get people to use their service.

I have a lot to cover in the BARCC Blog next week. I am just sayin'.

Unicorn Chaser
Kirsten Dunst, "Turning Japanese". I will go on record as saying that I would wear that outfit.

Friday Memeage!
Wearing: Black cowlneck shirt and jeans, jewelry TBA.
Reading: Heartland by markteppo, and Full Frontal Feminism by Jessica Valenti.
Writing: This weekend/today I have to do that story. And finish "Maxfield Parrish Blues". And then I have a small collaboration, and the flashfic I owe people.
Knitting: This shawl, in Lucy's hand-dyed silvergreybluerust.
Planning: Tonight is mercifully clear. Tomorrow I need to grab as writing time, until aquila_dominus, cluegirl, jenphalian, and lbitw get here for OMG FLOGGING MOLLY. Sunday = hanging out with my fabulous guests til they clear out, then writerly stuff.

I need to get that schedule down for serious.

Also? My March is almost full. o.O

26th-Feb-2010 01:24 pm (UTC)
'It is all rape culture all the time up in here, I am just saying.'

Grrr. Is it weird to hope a friend's job becomes unnecessary and obsolete one day? Like, 'Back then, there was still rape. Yeah, I don't even know.'

Pipe dream, I guess. *sigh*

...sorry. Not that rape doesn't always make me mad, but that SwanCon story made me mad.
26th-Feb-2010 01:35 pm (UTC)
I have been to a few Swancons since my undergraduate and postgraduate days - and the rape story makes me mad. This has to stop, period.
26th-Feb-2010 01:46 pm (UTC)
That Kirsten Dunst video made me go "Wha?"

I recall one episode of "The Practice" (I think it was) where the assistant/secretary/receptionist's (don't remember who exactly she was) dentist bit her on her breasts while she knocked out for a procedure. *shudders* To be taken advantage of while entrusting someone with yourself is horrific.
26th-Feb-2010 01:48 pm (UTC)
The SwanCon story makes me wonder if anything like this happens at Arisia and how the Committee would/does handle it.
26th-Feb-2010 02:43 pm (UTC)
From what I recall from when I volunteered in security, Arisia does have a policy, and it requires people to register complaints with the con staff. However, I don't think it covers things that happen outside of the con.
26th-Feb-2010 02:02 pm (UTC)
Have read/heard the series on NPR this week about rape on college campuses? There's some frightening stuff in there.
26th-Feb-2010 02:08 pm (UTC)
I think the NPR series is covering the Center for Public Integrity series, but I'll look it up to make sure. Thanks!
26th-Feb-2010 02:30 pm (UTC)
I would be shocked if her's was the only such story about something like that happening because of a con. Arisia certainly has it's 5% of bugfuck crazy, as nick_kaufmann wrote.

Cons are places where many people feel free to take risks they might otherwise not take, like (but not limited to) dressing up (or down), socializing, or flirting, because they feel like they are around a supportive community. However, there are definitely predators who take advantage of that. Many of them are dealt with socially, by making them feel unwelcome, but it's hard for cons to take an official stand against someone unless there are complaints.

I'm glad that the community in Swancon are willing to stand with her, at least.
26th-Feb-2010 02:36 pm (UTC)
There are predators in many forms at cons - and people have been 'conned' (pardon for the bad pun - if people call me out on it, I sincerely apologize). The worst sort of predator is the quiet unassuming one.

But I think the Swancon community is willing to stand with her and stand up against such predators.

Edited at 2010-02-26 02:39 pm (UTC)
26th-Feb-2010 02:41 pm (UTC)
"It's always the quiet ones," eh?

Edited at 2010-02-26 02:41 pm (UTC)
26th-Feb-2010 02:46 pm (UTC)
Ye, it's always the quiet ones.

And that's what frightens me, sometimes.
26th-Feb-2010 02:58 pm (UTC)
To expand this a bit, it's true of other "supportive communities." I've seen it in the SCA. And it's NOT always the bugfuck crazy... or even the socially inept but probably harmless. I actually think that we're most wary of those groups because we feel we can't read what to expect from them.

I was assaulted by someone I considered a friend. Outgoing, charming, flattering, smart... and I wasn't the only one. And every time I see him with a new woman, I want to take her aside & warn her. I've done it when I've known her, but, I've been afraid to do so when I didn't.
26th-Feb-2010 04:25 pm (UTC)
Perhaps the only good news in the Swancon story is that so damn many people are pledging their active physical and behavioral support at future cons. You know, actually standing up, calling out bad behavior when they see it, intervening with physical presence, and shunning.

When I was in a relationship with my attacker, people around us gradually saw that things weren't all peachy keen. Only ONE person said anything to help me--the rest didn't want to interfere. (That one person, BTW, has now been my friend for over 20 years and, gods willing, will be for decades to come.)
26th-Feb-2010 09:33 pm (UTC)
Awww, thank you so much!!! :D
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