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Odin's Day 
7th-Oct-2009 08:07 am
Happy late birthday to ellen_kushner!

Hello to new readers devils_sidekick, trochee, and xzarakizraiia!

Hangin' in. I took an extra Robaxin last night, because stress made me ouchy.

I am, as of today, six months seizure-free.

She spent her afternoon playing Portal, chatting with friends, watching Gilmore Girls. She even did what homework she could. And she's in school today! She insisted, and it's a half-day, so not too much to wear her out. She's sore, but that's about it. No new injuries surfacing. We're keeping a close eye on her.

A number of people have gently or not-so-gently nudged us to get a lawyer. Okay, okay! We have two recommendations from local friends who've been through accidents, and we'll call today.

Adam drove her to school today, and the accident site is definitely within the school zone. So he'll have double the speeding ticket, too.

She got a visit last night from a police sergeant! He was one of the people on the scene, and wanted to see how she was doing. Benefits of living in a small town. Something like this happens, and the whole PD is buzzing about it. Our town is four square miles. Nothing else has happened this week. The rumor at school is that she broke all of her ribs and got stitches in five places! Again, small town, nothing to talk about but "OMG Elayna was hit by a car!"... I predict that she'll be very fawned-over today.

I had my shaking-like-a-leaf episode and my silent-weeping episode. Neither with her around. The latter was triggered by rinsing out her hair in the bathtub; the rusty dried blood made the tub-water look like tea. And I thought about her looking up and seeing her reflection in the cop's sunglasses, with the blood pool around her head and shoulders (which is when she realized that she was bleeding), and I thought about the hours in the hospital where she just kept bleeding and kept bleeding, and how much they had to pull her ragged scalp together to staple it. And I patted her on the back (non-injured right side!) and sent her upstairs to shower in clean water. And I bent over the kitchen sink and very very quietly lost my shit for a little bit.

Adam is sort of taking over interacting with the police department; it is important for each of us to Do Something or Have Done Something. (For my parents, too, hence sending emergency flowers and bear.) He's staying home today, and we'll get the police report and call the lawyer and everything.

She's okay. So we'll be okay. I am just every so often being struck with "my daughter was hit by a fucking car."

Speaking of Doing Something, I feel the need to direct everyone's energy to something constructive, like "Donate to Charity X!", but I can't think of anything appropriate for this. I'll ask Elayna this afternoon. Maybe her Girl Scout Silver Award project can be about crosswalk safety.

It's a Major Award!
This is the news I was going to post yesterday morning! Copied and pasted from the draft post. Is why the tone is different and all bouncy. Because the child had not yet been hit by a car.

So my volunteer coordinator asked me to come in a little early Monday so she could ask me something. Turns out that one of my fellow volunteers and I are absolutely deadlocked for the Volunteer of the Year award! We got the same number of votes from our peers. We've logged the same number of meetings, and the same number of hours on BARCC engagements and outreach projects. Every criterion my coordinator could think of, we were evenly matched on. And she wasn't allowed to give the award to two people!

(Mark: "Wow. Who's that much like you?"
Me: "The guy I voted for!")

She apparently been going nuts figuring out how to resolve this, and she finally hit upon an idea. My particular gift is in communicating; my coordinator finds my speeches moving and my stories eloquent.

So she asked if I'd be the keynote speaker. :)

This is not a thing volunteers do. I'm a first! I'm giving a modified survivor speech, focusing on transforming the experience through working for social change. This way we both get honored. :)

(First thing I said when informed that there was a tie, and who I was tied with: "Give it to him, he's been here longer!"
First thing he said: "Oooh. Let's have a dance-off!")

Tied for Volunteer of the Year. :) This is one of those things where it's not even just an honor to be nominated - but the work really, truly is its own reward. And having the work I do recognized by my peers is really freakin' awesome. I bounced all the way home!

The Gala is November 4. I must get a pretty dress taken in and knit a stole for the occasion. Tickets are $150, if you happen to have $150 to spend on social change! And you can buy ad space/message-to-volunteer space in the program for $50.

Friends Having Etsy Sales
* sihaya09's gorgeous jewelry, to pay vet bills.
* eilonwy's beautiful yarn, for her birthday.

Link Soup
* This story, by the wondrous tithenai, is just stunningly gorgeous.
* My Vegas, then and now.
* Scented cellphones?
* Beautiful pictures of a Ukrainian village.
* Superhero Facebook status updates.
* Sneak peek of one of the routines from tonight's Glee. Admit it, you never knew how perfect those two songs would be together, either.

Link Soup: Daily Science Edition
* Americans Elizabeth H. Blackburn, Carol W. Greider and Jack W. Szostak won the 2009 Nobel Prize in medicine on Monday for discovering a key mechanism in the genetic operations of cells, an insight that has inspired new lines of research into cancer.
* Images from the Herschel observatory, obtained during the performance verification phase, reveal previously unseen detail in a region of the Milky Way near the Galactic Plane.
* Ten of the finalists from Nikon’s 35th Annual Small World Photomicrography Competition.
* Saturn's gigantic infrared ring.

Dealing with accident aftermath. Probably having an office-cleaning or closet-cleaning spree, because that helps. Having lunch with a friend. Seeing feste_sylvain tonight.
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7th-Oct-2009 12:27 pm (UTC)
The Volunteer of the Year thing isn't just based on amount of hours logged, either - it's also about community. One of the things people are supposed to think about when voting is "Who has helped and supported you?"

I am appreciated. <3

7th-Oct-2009 04:27 pm (UTC)
You don't need much yarn, it just depends on how long you want to make them and whatnot. If you get something more or less worsted weight, one ball should be more than enough.
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7th-Oct-2009 09:11 pm (UTC)
No problem!
7th-Oct-2009 12:32 pm (UTC)
I really don't know how to ask this...was the driver distracted in some way when he was driving? It is the only way I could see someone not seeing a child in a crosswalk and hitting them. I'm just trying to get into my head how something like this could happen without the guy being distracted.

If he was, could her Girl Scout project be on distracted driving and the dangers thereof? (Thought of this after almost being hit -- in a car -- this week by someone on a cell phone. Elayna's situation and this post kinda gelled the idea.) She's at the age where she'd be a peer talking to new drivers also -- which might have more impact than "mom and dad" saying it.
7th-Oct-2009 12:42 pm (UTC)
I don't know yet... hopefully we'll get the police report today, and hopefully we'll know then. I wouldn't be surprised if he was on a cell phone.
7th-Oct-2009 01:08 pm (UTC)

The area I live in at one time was having about 1 or 2 deaths every few weeks among teens driving. Most of it was chalked up to distracted driving (cell phones, others in car, etc). Very big school and community campaign commenced to get people to figure out that driving is an activity you shouldn't multi-task when you're doing.

It is a good message for both inexperienced and experienced drivers. :S Too bad someone has to get hurt for it to sink in.
7th-Oct-2009 12:56 pm (UTC)
I am, as of today, six months seizure-free.

That's excellent news!

As is the news that Elayna's feeling well enough for school.
7th-Oct-2009 01:32 pm (UTC)
Eee, so much good. *HUGS* Congratulations on the seizure-free-ness, the nomination, and the imminent speech-giving! Also I really look forward to meeting Elayna some day; she's hardcore. SO glad she's okay.

And thank you so much for the story-plug! *bounce* I'm happy you liked it!
7th-Oct-2009 01:52 pm (UTC)
She's so totally hardcore. And every time I tell her that, it gets a laugh out of her, so I'm going to keep telling her.

The story got me happily misty-eyed, in the home stretch. And that was before yesterday's Events! Well done, you.
7th-Oct-2009 01:36 pm (UTC)
*lots more hugs all around*

All three girls send their hugs and well wishes to Elayna and basically pounced on me as soon as they saw me last night to ask me if I'd heard about her accident (not knowing I'd already known).

And then they wanted me to tell them as much as I could about her.
7th-Oct-2009 01:52 pm (UTC)
7th-Oct-2009 01:58 pm (UTC)
They also demanded to know (as teenagers are wont to do) how it is we can arrange for them to all meet. *giggle*.

Roadtrips came up
I've had several offers by at least Kritter to stow away in baggage thusfar
CONvergence came up
I'm sure they'll try and come up with other creative ideas...
7th-Oct-2009 02:00 pm (UTC)
Again with the aw!

CONvergence would be just fine if only we could afford it. *wry smile*
7th-Oct-2009 01:36 pm (UTC)
So many good things! Being seizure free for six months, Elayna being ok, being BARCC's keynote speaker! I'm so full of relief-glee for you, I'm chair-dancing.
7th-Oct-2009 02:30 pm (UTC)
Another alternative to a lawyer is that you can do a Demand yourselves - and not have to pay 25% - 33% of the ultimate award to the lawyer.

I would suggest checking out the Nolo Press book "How to Settle Your own Personal Injury Claim" or similar title.

You guys are smart enough that you can do this and typically get 2 - 3 times Elayna's medical bills.
7th-Oct-2009 02:42 pm (UTC) - Very good story
Thanks for the link.
7th-Oct-2009 03:05 pm (UTC)
I strongly approve of you having good things in your life to post about in your daily posts. I would like to encourage the universe to continue supplying them.

six months seizure-free

Speaking of things I'd like to have continue...let's start with that one. Hooray for those six months, and hoping for many more.

First thing he said: "Oooh. Let's have a dance-off!"

You should have one anyway, and sell tickets. More money for BARCC!

Congratulations to you both, and to the volunteer coordinator who came up with such a perfect way to honor you both for what you bring.

I'm glad Elayna's feeling good enough for school.
7th-Oct-2009 03:11 pm (UTC)
Congratulations :). This post contains many blessings, and I am honored that you chose to share your happiness.

Thank you.
7th-Oct-2009 03:44 pm (UTC)
First, let me join in all the comments of relief that Elayna is doing so well after her (and your) ordeal!!

Similarly, I join in the celebration of your 6 months free of seizures. And, so awesomely, your nomination/tie for Volunteer of the Year. So awesome! And your keynote is going to kick ass.

And lastly, thanks for the link to my Etsy. :) I appreciate the signal boost muchly. :)
7th-Oct-2009 04:31 pm (UTC)

Holy CRAP yayz!
7th-Oct-2009 04:46 pm (UTC) - Oh wow.
I am in awe of those photos. They are absolutely breath-taking. There's the sheer art of the image, then there's the technical ability to capture those images. It's just stunning.
7th-Oct-2009 04:47 pm (UTC)
I am glad to hear about the seizure free mark! I was talking with B yesterday about Elayna and said that I wasn't sure how long it had been for you.. it was one of the things that had me relieved that they came to GET you, cause IIRC extreme emotional situation can cause onset, yes? Doubly glad to hear it has not.

Many congratulations on the BAARC award!
7th-Oct-2009 05:24 pm (UTC)
IIRC extreme emotional situation can cause onset, yes?

Yep. Which is why I was like "Noooo, me driving is a Really Bad Idea."
7th-Oct-2009 07:31 pm (UTC)
You totally get a cookie for being smart on that.
7th-Oct-2009 06:12 pm (UTC) - I saw this today, and I though of you and Elayna

I know it's not the same. But maybe it's not that different.

And I'm glad, too, that she felt well enough to go back to school already.
10th-Oct-2009 09:47 am (UTC)
Congratulations on Volunteer Of The Year!
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