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Scheherazade in Blue Jeans
freelance alchemist
Thor's Day 
6th-Aug-2009 10:14 am
I slept through the night! Flawless victory!

Cast of Characters
I used to have a "cast of characters" post up to explain who's who in my life. Long since abandoned. Thinking of doing one again. To start with, yendi's my husband, feste_sylvain's my boyfriend, and Elayna's my daughter (together we are the Gojirawitz Girls; like the Gilmore Girls, but geeks); Max, Jack, and Victoria are the kitties. Who else are you curious about?

More on Photography
I was planning a long rambling post breaking down why the photography thing bugs me. But. You do not actually have to fully grok why. All you have to do is respect my boundaries, as I respect yours.

Trip Trip Trip
Gong to NYC Saturday-Monday - Adam's mom scored us a hotel room, so we don't have to impose on anyone and I have guaranteed air conditioning! Elayna and I are flying straight out of NYC to Florida, because it seems silly to take the train back to Boston for four hours and then go to the airport here and wait another two hours, you know?

But what this means is that I have to get everything we need for the rest of August organized and packed over the next two days. And tomorrow's a date day, so I need to get as much done today as possible. Meep.

Mom called yesterday; she's excited about the impending visit. I think it's the first time we've been equally excited about me visiting Florida. She's worried about us being left alone a lot while they're at work - I told her that's so not an issue, what with swimming and our writing and the potential daytime presence of felisdemens and maxymyllyn, and evening presence of them + enderfem, we_happy_few, and kires, middle-school friend Jeff, Rose... and one of Elayna's Explo friends lives down there, and her old American Heritage camp friends... we won't be bored. Gojirawitz Girls are self-sufficient and easily entertained.

Another Rape Post
Excerpted from here:

If we teach women that there are only certain ways they may acceptably behave, we should not be surprised when they behave in those ways.

And we should not be surprised when they behave these ways during attempted or completed rapes.

Women who are taught not to speak up too loudly or too forcefully or too adamantly or too demandingly are not going to shout “NO” at the top of their goddamn lungs just because some guy is getting uncomfortably close.

Women who are taught not to keep arguing are not going to keep saying “NO.”

Women who are taught that their needs and desires are not to be trusted, are fickle and wrong and are not to be interpreted by the woman herself, are not going to know how to argue with “but you liked kissing, I just thought…”

Women who are taught that physical confrontations make them look crazy will not start hitting, kicking, and screaming until it’s too late, if they do at all.

Women who are taught that a display of their emotional state will have them labeled hysterical and crazy (which is how their perception of events will be discounted) will not be willing to run from a room disheveled and screaming and crying.

Women who are taught that certain established boundaries are frowned upon as too rigid and unnecessary are going to find themselves in situations that move further faster before they realize that their first impression was right, and they are in a dangerous room with a dangerous person.

Women who are taught that refusing to flirt back results in an immediately hostile environment will continue to unwillingly and unhappily flirt with somebody who is invading their space and giving them creep alerts.

People wonder why women don’t “fight back,” but they don’t wonder about it when women back down in arguments, are interrupted, purposefully lower and modulate their voices to express less emotion, make obvious signals that they are uninterested in conversation or being in closer physical proximity and are ignored. They don’t wonder about all those daily social interactions in which women are quieter, ignored, or invisible, because those social interactions seem normal. They seem normal to women, and they seem normal to men, because we were all raised in the same cultural pond, drinking the same Kool-Aid.

Read the whole thing. It's by the same person who wrote the "rape jokes" post I posted during Blogathon.

Do Something Good
* Sponsor Rio in the Leukemia/Lymphoma Walk!

Link Soup: Reading Material Edition
* "Notes Toward a Comparative Mythology", by the ever-fabulous wirewalking!
* “Sinner, Baker, Fabulist, Priest; Red Mask, Black Mask, Gentleman, Beast” by the ever-marvelous eugie!
* "Glassface" by James Trimarco

Link Soup: Daily Science Edition
* A study in the journal Nano Letters shows that the well-known rules of heat transfer from a nonflective object, called Planck's blackbody radiation law, break down if the object can be brought close enough to another object while still not touching it.
* The first artificial cell organelle may help researchers find a way to make bioengineered heparin and other synthetic drugs.
* HIV genome structure decoded

Oh augh. It's all trip prep, with reading so I can get through this library book, and writing if I have time. I'm greatly looking forward to this trip if only because it gives me writing time - pure writing time where I'm not fretting about the kitchen being a mess or the floor needing sweeping. Also, I think I need to do a WTD if only for the cash infusion; should toss that around in my head today and see what comes out.

But yeah. Today should be spent packing what I can and charging the electronics and all of that, and going through the backlogged e-mail and getting everything done that I need to. I'll be away from the 'net Saturday-Monday, with only brief e-mail checks first thing in the morning and at bedtime; I'll be online at my parents' house, but not nearly as much.
6th-Aug-2009 02:44 pm (UTC)
May I be super nosy and inquire as to what you thought of "Notes Toward Etc."? After they told me it was going up this week & I had this moment of "Oh, yeah, I did write a specfic mommy! Woo!" the first thing I thought of was your posts on the topic, so I would be delighted to pick your brain if you've got a sec. :D
7th-Sep-2009 01:01 am (UTC)
Way, way belated - I loved it!
6th-Aug-2009 02:46 pm (UTC)
Thank you for the link to Rio's page!! And thank you for the rape excerpt. Something to keep in mind when raising a daughter for sure!
6th-Aug-2009 03:19 pm (UTC)
I just wanted to stop and say I love you, shade, for your frequent use of the word 'grok.'

Thou art god, shade. Our eggs share the same nest.
6th-Aug-2009 03:32 pm (UTC)
If we teach women that they are only worth two cows, they will be surprised when they are suddenly worth eight cows.

I will find a positive message in that film! Somehow!
6th-Aug-2009 04:49 pm (UTC)
This trip sounds hella more pleasant than last year's. Remember to PACK your chargers!! And bon voyage!!
6th-Aug-2009 08:59 pm (UTC)
Last year I'd been down to FL a few times by August, and was heartily sick of it! I haven't been since December, though, and Ive been missing my friends - and feeling very wanderlusty.
6th-Aug-2009 05:00 pm (UTC)
I bookmarked that same blog post and will soon, quietly, share it with a few cops I know. They're good guys, but they're guys. I think they'll understand the scene in a whole new way after reading that.
6th-Aug-2009 08:57 pm (UTC)
Thank you. :)
6th-Aug-2009 06:48 pm (UTC)
Women who are taught not to speak up too loudly... are not going to shout “NO” at the top of their goddamn lungs just because some guy is getting uncomfortably close.

Been there. Thanks for the link. It's a very good post.
11th-Aug-2009 01:11 am (UTC)
re: the rape post -- yup, and often women are in a damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don't situation. for example, i'm more likely to do less-socially-appropriate things if i'm angry or uncomfortable, and it makes people whom I like very much less likely to want to interact with me in normal, everyday situations. but i'd rather overcompensate in my direction than in the other...
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