Me: "Much better - she really got herself caught up."
Her: "Are you sure you should be going on this trip now?"
Me: "...no, really. She's back on track."
Her: "That's what I mean."
Me: ".... so wait, you think I shouldn't go because she's doing well?"
Me: "...so... I shouldn't go away when she isn't doing well, and I shouldn't go away when she is? Then... when do I get to go away?"
Her: "Well, you have to give some things up sometimes."
Y'know, it's good to know that I'm a crappy mom in her book no matter what. Takes off the pressure, y'know?
We have been over the fact that I have given up a lot, and continue to give up a lot, for this child. She conveniently forgets and, when reminded, will backpedal and say that's not what she meant.
And she pulled out "you have to put her first, you know." And I honestly do not remember what I said to that, because I just went into WTF mode.