August 6th, 2010



Happy early birthday to ian_gunn, who advances a year over the weekend!

Hello to new reader anansigirltoo!

State of the 'Song
A bit more functional.

BARCC's next volunteer training is coming up August 23-27! Info/interview session is Wednesday. So if you've been thinking of applying, get on that.

I must post about start values and how I choose mine.

Link Soup
* Oh hai, rape culture in YA novels.
* Dear Google: I thought your motto was "don't be evil". So knock it off.
* Writing advice from Billy Wilder.
* I would totally wear a Jawa top hat. Y'all *know* I would.

Daily Science
In each cell nucleus, hidden in our massive strands of human DNA, lies the secret of longevity. Or so we thought. But tiny rings of mitochondrial DNA, responsible for coding just 13 proteins, might actually hold the key.

To which I say hell yeah mtDNA. I have been talking about mtDNA for years.

Friday Memage
Wearing: Green ruched top, ivory skirt with green print and beading.
Reading: Ash by Malindo Lo, The Checklist Manifesto by Atul Gawande, and Emergence: The Connected Lives of Ants, Brains, Cities, and Software by Steven Johnson.
Writing: Haven't this week. Hell, I still haven't read what I wrote during Blogathon.
Knitting: Still just the baby blanket, when I have brain enough.
Today is work, handing off the giant squid hat, and taking Bitchcakes to the vet. (Yes, the cat is affectionately known as Bitchcakes.) Tonight, if no help is needed, I'm going to the Mary Roach reading/signing at Porter Square Books, and I'd welcome company for that and perhaps dinner.
Tomorrow I mail all of the paid-for Blogathon stuffs, and then we go get our Elayna back! Attendance at slipjig's party is dependent upon Elayna's energy level. If she crashes early and anyone's going to Heroes, I may go.
Sunday is blissfully unplanned; I'm invited to Bent Wit Cabaret in the evening, but have only RSVPed as a maybe so far.

Everything here but picking Elayna up, mailing stuff, and taking Bitchcakes to the vet is malleable and subject to the needs of the tribe, for the record.


EDIT: I remembered that I have to do the monthly DPH paperwork, and that the paperwork changed with the fiscal year. I'm declaring that a victory.

Restaurant Week

Or, rather, Restaurant Weeks. August 15-20 and 22-27. Anyone want to nom with me?

Fair warning: the second restaurant week is during BARCC's new volunteer training week, and you may have to say "'song, we will not be talking about rape culture at the dinner table." Which is always an okay thing to say, FYI.
I don't feel the need to explain my art

Art Camp!

kythryne says: Ever wanted to spend a day in an artist's studio? Join artist and teacher Kythryne Aisling in beautiful Concord, New Hampshire on Saturday, September 4th or Saturday, October 2nd for a day of hands-on learning, experimentation, and creativity! You'll learn to make wire jewelry, spin yarn, and fuse glass in a relaxed environment, and get a glimpse into the life of the working artist.

Learn more and register at

I HIGHLY recommend this. If you've been reading me for any length of time, you know that Wyrding Studios is my home away from home - part of that is just that Kyth and Amy are awesome, and part of it is getting to play with shiny things. I highly recommend playing with shiny things. Also the dogs rock. It's fun, it's a great recharge, and you get to learn stuff, too. How cool is that?

I'll be going on the 4th, if you want to time your workshop to coincide with mine. *nod*

Have You Seen Lisa Porter?

Lisa is the adult child of people LJ people rm knows are friends with.

She hasn't been seen or heard from since 7/30 in Sacramento.

Info and photo.

Please keep your eyes open, inform someone if you see her, and boost the signal. Donations are also being sought to help fund efforts that might accelerate finding her.

Thank you.

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One of these days someone is going to find my obsessive and meticulous filing system really sexy.



(I probably don't need the paperwork from the purchase of my house in FL in 1998 and its sale in 2001. But hey, it's good that I knew exactly where Bitchcakes's adoption paperwork was. Right behind Jack's, which is right behind Max's. Chronological order. WHAT.)

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So yeah, I just came out to my mom. yeah.

That just happened.

I had to; I've been meaning to for ages, but, y'know, scary. I was sitting at Aries's wake, though, and I was thinking "god, I am so glad they were out, because how awful would it be if hammercock had to pretend that Aries was just a friend?"

And I looked over at feste_sylvain, and at yendi, and said "Yeah. I have to come out to my parents. This week."

And. So. I did.

Surprisingly, it did not go poorly. I've sort of been playing the long game with this one - I've been introducing them to poly friends for years. The concept had been introduced. They've met feste_sylvain and tamidon, and they know Feste & Tamidon's elder daughter is Elayna's best friend.

Unbeknownst to me, they also totally knew Feste and I were dating.

Elayna let it slip, of course. Which I'm fine with. I specifically never told her to keep this to herself. I grew up forced to keep massive secrets from everyone in my life, and I think that's a horribly toxic thing to do to a child, to tell them they can't talk about big things in their lives. I was not going to do that.

So they had an idea. Which is good - it means they've been observing the lot of us with that in mind and seeing that we work.

Mom's big question was whether Adam was okay with this.

Me: "Mom, I'm a hell of a lot of woman. Adam is glad to hand me off to someone else every so often."

Her hearing him crack up in the background helped.

So yeah. Dear Mom, I've been dating someone outside my marriage for three years. And everyone is happy. The men like each other to the point where they hang out without me sometimes. The kids are biffles. (THIS IS A WORD. Ask your teenager.) I told Mom part of why Feste and I work is because we have the same priorities: Kids first. Spouses second. Then everything else.

So yeah.

That happened.

It is... okay, I think.

Brave little toaster, I am.
Boondock/can't believe

Life with 'song and Adam

Me: "ADAM."
Adam: "...what?"
Me: "Have you seen the tagline for the Yogi Bear movie that you made me watch the trailer for?"
Adam: "I don't think so?"
Me: "OH YOU WOULD KNOW. Because. Adam. The tagline?"
Adam: "Yes?"
Me: "Great things come in bears."
Adam: "Oh no."
Me: "Coincidentally, also the tagline of my favorite gay bar back in Ft. Lauderdale."

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