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So you know how my entire adult relationship with my parents is based on silence and lack of acknowledgment of the past?
Broke the silence this morning to inquire as to their reasoning re: putting me in the wilderness survival camp.
Not a good idea.
So yeah. I might be coming home earlier than expected. And I might be bringing Elayna.
Points raised (by me):
* "I'm sorry you feel that way" is not an apology, it's a way of placing the blame on the other person, and had it been me saying that to them, they would not have viewed it as an apology either.
* Likewise, "I'm sorry you think it was a mistake" is not the same as "It was a mistake."
* "You seem to have turned out pretty well" = not a point in your favor, Dad; this was in spite of you, not because of you. This is because I've spent my entire adult life slowly, deliberately, painfully unlearning all the behaviors you people taught me so that I could be not a shitty parent to my own child. (Corollary: You point out that she's so much better behaved and so much happier than I was at her age? Gee, I wonder why.)
I don't feel like typing anymore. Just - I need to decide if it's better to leave Elayna here (pro: camp she loves) or take her back with me (con: my parents).
Broke the silence this morning to inquire as to their reasoning re: putting me in the wilderness survival camp.
Not a good idea.
So yeah. I might be coming home earlier than expected. And I might be bringing Elayna.
Points raised (by me):
* "I'm sorry you feel that way" is not an apology, it's a way of placing the blame on the other person, and had it been me saying that to them, they would not have viewed it as an apology either.
* Likewise, "I'm sorry you think it was a mistake" is not the same as "It was a mistake."
* "You seem to have turned out pretty well" = not a point in your favor, Dad; this was in spite of you, not because of you. This is because I've spent my entire adult life slowly, deliberately, painfully unlearning all the behaviors you people taught me so that I could be not a shitty parent to my own child. (Corollary: You point out that she's so much better behaved and so much happier than I was at her age? Gee, I wonder why.)
I don't feel like typing anymore. Just - I need to decide if it's better to leave Elayna here (pro: camp she loves) or take her back with me (con: my parents).