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Advisory: Following a period of escalating horrific behavior over the… 
31st-May-2013 01:27 pm
Advisory: Following a period of escalating horrific behavior over the past month, Judah Sher (sindrian) raped me Wednesday night and physically assaulted me this morning. Police reports have been filed and investigation is ongoing. I have been granted a three-month restraining order against him so, uh, please do not invite us to the same parties. More details later; I just got home from the courthouse.
31st-May-2013 05:33 pm (UTC)
I am so so sorry. Thinking of you and if there is anything I can do from these miles away let me know.
31st-May-2013 05:38 pm (UTC)
Oh god. I am so sorry to hear that.

I wish there was something more I could do/say to help.
31st-May-2013 05:47 pm (UTC)
i'm speechless wow :/ i hope everyone around you is giving lots of support and love
31st-May-2013 05:50 pm (UTC)
I read this.

I am here, in whatever way you need, as are your other online supports, and I know you have People there too. Take care, and let us know what you can when you can.
31st-May-2013 05:55 pm (UTC) - I read this
If you need to run away to NYC to curl up in a bed, don't hesitate to show up. I know that sometimes being ELSEWHERE is helpful.
31st-May-2013 05:57 pm (UTC)
Where's my katana??!!
31st-May-2013 05:59 pm (UTC)
Oh. Oh my gods. The horror I feel is indescribable. I read this whole thing. I support you so much.
31st-May-2013 07:23 pm (UTC)
This. If there's anything I can do to help, let me know.
31st-May-2013 06:09 pm (UTC)
Sending you much love and support and strength in getting through this.
31st-May-2013 06:21 pm (UTC)
I read this, and on Facebook, and I do not know what to say, other than I am glad to see that you are doing what you need to do to be safe and that you have the resources you need to stay safe.
31st-May-2013 06:23 pm (UTC) - Here.
Listening and sending positive thoughts.

31st-May-2013 06:24 pm (UTC)
I read this whole thing.
31st-May-2013 06:33 pm (UTC)
Oh no. I am so sorry. Let me know if there's anything I can do to help, listen, or be supportive.
31st-May-2013 06:45 pm (UTC)
Jesus, so sorry. Thanks for coming forward.
31st-May-2013 06:46 pm (UTC)
Wow, that's shitty.


I have no idea in what way I could possibly help, but as a friend of thewronghands if you think of something, holler.
31st-May-2013 06:50 pm (UTC)
31st-May-2013 06:50 pm (UTC)

I am so sorry, Shira.
31st-May-2013 06:57 pm (UTC)
Also listing thewronghands as a character reference, as I have only met you personally at Strowlercon.
But if you need anything that I can help with, even if it's the ear from someone distant, I can give you my cell phone number. (The only time I will be out of touch is 7:30pm-5am Saturday/Sunday for the Overnight Walk.)
I am sorry and I am listening and wishing you comfort and strength.
31st-May-2013 07:00 pm (UTC)
I have read this and am so sorry and wish I could be nearer by to support you. If there is anything at all I can do to help, say the word.
31st-May-2013 07:03 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry.
31st-May-2013 07:28 pm (UTC)

I have read this and I am so sorry.

31st-May-2013 07:28 pm (UTC)
I am very upset that this happened to you, especially in the context of what looked from the outside, at least, like a loving relationship.
31st-May-2013 07:30 pm (UTC)
...holy sh--I'm so sorry.
31st-May-2013 07:36 pm (UTC)
Replied at twitter, but there is more room to say the things here, so replying here too and I hope that's okay.

There are no words to express how awful this is and how much love and support I am sending your way right now.

I know it can be overwhelming to have lots of people say "tell me what I can to do to help!" so I'm just going to offer up things I know I personally can do to help, and if you ever want or need to take me up on them, you know a few different ways to reach me (and can ask for more):

* I can listen without judgement
* I can listen with judgement
* I can listen while only making sympathetic noises
* I can listen and give words of comfort, even occasional bits of advice
* I can organize resources and make lists and do administrative type stuff
* I can send care packages
* I can communicate to other people so you don't have to about needs or boundaries
* I can empathize that this just sucks and hurts and is terrible
* I can point out the positive stuff
* I can, and am, sending many good thoughts your way.
31st-May-2013 07:38 pm (UTC)
We've never met in person, despite years of LJ acquaintance, but if there's anything I can do from way out here in Colorado, please let me know.

I can't even find words, I'm utterly speechless.
31st-May-2013 07:45 pm (UTC)
I am so very sorry. Add me to the list of stunned and speechless. Sending so very much love, strength and calm to you and your family.
31st-May-2013 07:45 pm (UTC)
31st-May-2013 07:58 pm (UTC)
Oh my gods, I am so very sorry to hear he did this to you. You have lots of good thoughts/vibes from Maryland.
31st-May-2013 08:06 pm (UTC)
I have read this, I have read your other post. I am listening.
31st-May-2013 11:09 pm (UTC)
Read and replied on facebook, but this is still just so messed up. Hugs as needed/wanted.
31st-May-2013 11:22 pm (UTC)
I'm so terribly sorry. I know we've never met in person, but I am sending you love and strength across the internet.
1st-Jun-2013 12:34 am (UTC)
I am so, so sorry, and I'm thinking of you.
1st-Jun-2013 06:02 am (UTC)
I wish I could help...
1st-Jun-2013 11:37 am (UTC)
1st-Jun-2013 11:24 pm (UTC)
I have very little to add that hasn't been said, but I wanted to let you know I read everything you've posted on LJ about this and I sympathize with all and empathize with some of this. Can't imagine what I could possibly do to help, but if you think of something please don't hesitate to ask
1st-Jun-2013 11:32 pm (UTC)
Jesus. I saw you comment someplace that you keep expecting an explanation to happen, that this all has to be a horrible mistake. Which is a weird echo of exactly what I was thinking.

Not that it excuses any of it, but count me in as part of the crowd wondering what medical thing went sproing in his brain. I wonder about an eval for bipolar - given that the events leading up to the assault sound like generally increasing poor impulse control. I wonder more about something organically wrong - brain tumor leaning on emotional/behavioral control centers?

God. *Shakes head* I read this. I am so sorry. I am saddened. I am bewildered. I have nothing useful to say. :(
1st-Jun-2013 11:58 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry.

You have any and all support I can offer.
5th-Jun-2013 12:31 am (UTC)
I read this whole thing.
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