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Scheherazade in Blue Jeans
freelance alchemist
30th-Nov-2009 06:50 pm
Boondock/can't believe
Christmas is happening.

No, really. There was doubt.

We've been going to my birthmom's family in DeLand, FL for nine years, pretty much since she found me. Last year, my birthmom couldn't make it, at the last minute. :( This year is iffy, but I'll be sending major mojo her way...

Due to the crappy economy, she hasn't been getting raises/bonuses, and she was just smacked with a multi-thousand-dollar medical expense. And so she couldn't afford to uy our tickets. She could afford to fly us out, but not back. So okay. Dad was grudgingly going to pay to fly us back from Ft. Lauderdale - we'd spend a week in DeLand and a week with my parents.

And then job. Which is excellent! but meant only one week, not two.

So the options were:
1. Go to DeLand
2. Go to New Orleans to visit my birthmom just in case she couldn't make it - but if she could, that screws everything up
3. Go to Ft. Lauderdale, but I'd feel shitty using the money she sent me to go there instead of DeLand if she was able to make it to DeLand.
4. Just stay in Boston and use the money for gifts (one of her suggestions).

Looked up flights to Orlando (closest airport to DeLand). Decent rates at under $200 per leg. But. That totals over a thousand dollars for the three of us.

I don't have the money to make that up, and if we're not going to FLL, I can't expect Dad to chip in.

Hell.

So I heaved a sigh and called Dad to get some help making the FLL vs. DeLand vs. Boston judgment call.

And - he offered to pay the other half to get us to DeLand.

They'll come up the 24th through the 27th, so they'll still get to see us. But. he doesn't get the week with us, and he's still paying. I so totally was not expecting that. I kept repeating "But you know we wouldn't be coming to Ft. Lauderdale, right?"

I think the job thing has a lot to do with it. And the fact that I wasn't asking for money. But. Still. I spent much of today fretting over the fact that there was probably no way to make this happen. But it's happening.
Comments 
1st-Dec-2009 03:41 am (UTC)
Yay!!! I love it when parents surprise you like that :)
1st-Dec-2009 03:42 am (UTC)
Was totally not expecting it!
1st-Dec-2009 03:59 am (UTC)
That's really REALLY awesome you have such a relationship with your birthmom.

My birthdaughter and I talk on myspace now that we've found each other, but she's chosen to keep it online for now (her reasoning was that to ME she's a long lost daughter, but to her I'm just a stranger she talks to online, and she doesn't want to hurt my feelings by being awkward...which just shows she grew up to be a pretty terrific young lady).

*hugs*
1st-Dec-2009 04:04 am (UTC)
It's a difficult relationship to navigate. There's no road map for this!

But she is so sweet, and we have this whole extra family now that's just awesome.

Hope things continue to develop with your birthdaughter, to everyone's comfort and happiness!
1st-Dec-2009 05:59 am (UTC)
Yay. Yay. YAAAY!
1st-Dec-2009 07:11 am (UTC)
Wow, so much can be said with just an exclamation point as a title...

Yay for this happening!
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