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Scheherazade in Blue Jeans
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14th-Jul-2009 11:04 am
What is one of the most important characteristics in a friend?
Aii. Just one? Trust. Honesty. Loyalty. Yes, I'm cheating.

What do you do when following your bliss is financially scary?
I don't know that I'm the best person to answer that one! I'm in the unusual position of being free to pursue what I want to do because my physical issues prevent me from doing a day job. If I *could* work, I don't know that I could have felt okay about leaving a paying gig to follow my bliss. Anyone else want to take this? kythryne, sihaya09, coffeeinhell?

Would there be anything in your life that you'd like a "do over" card for?
No... if I did anything different, I wouldn't be the same me. And I've screwed up plenty of times, and had nasty stuff happen to me... but all of it has shaped me, and I like who I am now.

If you were 13-in-body, what would your Explo "course load" look like?
Oooh. I'm assuming I'm going both sessions, which means four classes and four workshops. Hm. Mythbusters, Actor's Workshop, RPG Design, Short Story Workshop; workshops would be Circus Skills, Iron Chef, Stage Combat, and Swimming.

What do your cats write?
Mostly stuff like "e76476587zzzzzzzxd". Very experimental.

How are you? Really.
In-between. I feel like I might be better off physically than I've been in a while, but I'm hesitant to embrace that because I'll feel crushed if it goes away. State of mind is much better - that yo-yoing was clearly a Lyrica thing.

how old were you when your health issues first showed up?
29. I had asthma as a kid, but I didn't have anything Major til the epilepsy diagnosis when I was 29 (though my mother wonders if my childhood spaciness = simpl partial seizures that never got diagnosed).

How do you face the possibility of your own death? That of a loved one?
By accepting that I am not in control. I do what I can - I take my meds every day, and I take care of myself as best I can - but ultimately, I have the awareness that I could drop dead fifty years from now or five minutes from right now, and there's nothing I can really do about that, outside of minimizing risk factors. So. I try to do everything I want to do; I try to not have regrets. I try to live fully.

How do you want to be remember, in the end?
As someone who did good things, who made the world a better place. Also I would like to have written someone's favorite book. :)

How can you make your own life better?

Which two TAL categories would be smartest right now?
Joy & Inspiration and Utility Blends.

What did you do to get yourself surrounded by so many amazing people?
I don't know, man, but it must've been something good.

Is it me? Cause I'm seriously starting to think that it's me.
It's you. The force of your awesomeness warps the universe around you.

You write of supernatural powers, of gods and things beyond human knowledge...do you believe they exist?
Yep. This world has too many quirks to *not* have some beyond-human things going on.

How many roads must a man walk down?
One... two... *crunch* Three.

When have you ever felt the most free and with no worries?
Um. I think there was a week in preschool?

Are writerbrain and organizedbrain mutually exclusive? They seem to be for me.
I find them to be so. Some of the meds I've been on have sidelined chunks of my brain - and I found that I wrote and thought completely differently with my writerbrain than with the other parts of my brain. It was very weird.

Ever done primal scream therapy?

Who is your daughter's bio-donor (other than you)?
Layne, my then-boyfriend in Vegas.

What's your favorite flavor of ice cream?
Molasses gingersnap.

Where precisely would you like to be (and doing what exactly?) at the time you answer this question?
The churchyard in Woods Hole, MA, with my notebook and a cup of coffee.

Quick--name two sea creatures!
Sea urchin! Horseshoe crab!

How is your Social Security disability application going?
...yeah, I need to get back on top of that process.

Do I LOOK like a goat pasture? ;-)
...not last I checked.
14th-Jul-2009 03:52 pm (UTC)
Well, by the time I quit my job four years ago, I'd already been doing the jewelry thing part time for a couple of years, and had a pretty steady income going. And I'm married to an engineer with a fantastic job, and we had significant savings. So I didn't have a whole lot of worry going on back then.

When the recession hit, though, that was a different story. I panicked a little bit, planned an escape route just in case, diversified my business as much as I could, and hung on. And it's been okay.
14th-Jul-2009 04:39 pm (UTC)
What do you do when following your bliss is financially scary?

Since you ('song) asked my opinion ... I can only speak for myself, and say that my "following my bliss" has less to do with choosing the happier path than *not* choosing the unhappier path. I'm not good at full-time, 9-5 employment. The best I did at it was when I worked at newspapers, when I had a lot of freedom as to my hours and got to leave the office a lot, when I chose to do so.

When I've had jobs where I was chained to a desk for 8-9 hours a day? I was miserable. I'm not a good employee -- too mouthy, too inappropriate, too opinionated. I'm a good "team player" but I don't respect authority enough.

So "following my bliss" -- working as a freelance writer and trying to start up a 'net-based chocolate business -- is really about me making a living in the best way I can. I don't make a very good living, and I've made some awful mistakes along the way (in both endeavors), and the finances are often so stressful that I want to take to my bed like a Victorian lady to hide from the world.

The truth is, if I was psychologically and physically able to comfortably hold down a normal job and make decent money, I would do it. I follow my bliss because I don't have any other choice. Honestly, the money stuff is so stressful that I'm not sure I would advise anyone to quit a full-time job in this economy if they have solid employment. There's a lot of bliss that can be followed outside of your 40-hour work week, and you don't run the risk of getting kicked out of your apartment.

I realize that's not the message most people want to hear. But being financially strapped is horrible, and it colors everything else in your life.
14th-Jul-2009 04:55 pm (UTC)
For what it's worth, what you've said here makes me feel better about the choices I've made. I have one of those 8:30 - 5 cubicle jobs with the good benefits, good pay, AND job security (despite my opinionated, inappropriate self). My big concern is insurance - there's no way I'd survive my depression unmedicated. So even though there are times when I feel like my soul is withering under the fluorescent lights, I know that ultimately what is is up to me. And there is still ample opportunity to try to figure out my bliss.
14th-Jul-2009 06:23 pm (UTC)
I dropped you an email with one SSDI attorney recommendation. You could also check NOSSCR (National Organization of Social Security Claimant's Representatives)'s website. They have a referral service - it wouldn't be quality control, but they'd be referring you to people who at least care enough to be a NOSSCR member.
14th-Jul-2009 06:27 pm (UTC)
I saw! Thank you! I'm shuffling through my inbox as we speak, using my mostly-together day to try to get back on track...
14th-Jul-2009 06:29 pm (UTC)
What do you do when following your bliss is financially scary?

Oooh, I know this one. Mostly 'cause I'm there RIGHT NOW, what with the wedding and new place and tons of scary new expenses and a drastically reduced income.

a) work. get on the ball and work, whether it's actually practicing your art or promoting it. Promoting is work, too.

b)reduce expenses as much as possible. Yeah, this is a duh, but as I am an impulse buyer, very hard for me.

c) look for a low stress part time job. Which is what I am currently doing, as I will need one to make ends meet, unless my fanbase miraculously expands threefold.
15th-Jul-2009 02:17 am (UTC)
One... two... *crunch* Three.

Ahem. (As posted here!)
15th-Jul-2009 04:59 pm (UTC)
This made me laugh. But I really enjoyed this:

Would there be anything in your life that you'd like a "do over" card for?
No... if I did anything different, I wouldn't be the same me. And I've screwed up plenty of times, and had nasty stuff happen to me... but all of it has shaped me, and I like who I am now.

By saying that, you somehow make the universe a better, cozier place to live. It's like you have a sense of loyalty to reality.
19th-Jul-2009 01:46 pm (UTC)
Hm. I like that description. :)
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